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How to apply mindfulness to our daily communication
29 October 2017
This is a very succinct book on communicating. It digs through the roots of all communication issues and misunderstandings between people- beginning with self-communication to communication within a community.
Given that this is a book by a Zen master, mindfulness is the core concept of this book. It guides on how to remain mindful in all our communication from self to work to relationships to politics; and how to imbibe the skills of DEEP LISTENING and LOVING SPEECH.
There is a full chapter on how to use mindful language and examples of mantras (sentences we can use) to improve our communication - For example - 'I am here for you' and 'I know you are there and it makes me very happy.' These are simple sentences which we rarely use in daily lives because maybe we are never taught to say it or find it weird. The book offers many such sentences to use in different emotional scenarios of our relationships with people we interact with.
One of the rare insights I found in the book, is worth mentioning: WE ARE ALWAYS COMMUNICATING- in thoughts, speech and actions. And our communication is our continuation after we are dead and gone. This last chapter alone makes the book worth reading.
The book is slightly on the meditative and spiritual side of things. It offers a one-size-fits-all guide to all communication issues for all relationships. So sometimes it feels that the author is generalising. If you are looking for a more practical book with specific life scenarios, then check out 'Difficult Conversations' by Sheila Heen & Douglas Stone which deals with the psychological and social side of conversations.
[ I bought a paperback edition of this book and the fonts, layout, paper and binding quality all are very good.]