Mix two cultures, languages, way of living and top that with two main people along with the related people and their extended families and what do you get? A melting pot of bubbling hot Bollywood material story that can’t keep you off from laughing.
And from this cauldron you can either escape or are confounded with the identity notions for life.
Cross Connection: Of Culture, Clan & Cuisine by Deepali Joshi Adhikary is a well packed, delectable story about a home that’s rebuilt with the coming in of daughter-in-law and how the differences in culture make up for an interesting memoir.
A Maharashtrian bride enters the Bengali household but wait… right from the time the marriage preparations start, the glaring differences crop up in the minutest of the decisions. How do they cope with this as two families? And then later on how does the bride bridge the gap? Read the ebook to reveal into the experiences of conflicting frames of living.
My favourite incident in the book is the one involving the fish. Yeah it’s a fishy tale and it goes like this…..
“According to the Bengali tradition, a fish is sacred. During weddings, an exchange of fish between the groom and the bride’s family is considered auspicious. But what do you do when the bride’s family likes fish only in fish tanks and not on their plates? “
The verdict? Go for it! It is a fast paced read and quite enjoyable! While you tuck in the imagery of poshto and poran puri in your mind, this one is quite a delightful read.
Marriages may be made in heaven but they are certainly enjoyed and endured here. They are an amalgamation of culture, customs, cuisines and people. In India, where these aspects changes every 100 kms, the equation of marriage becomes complex. A girl conditioned to a certain culture is put in a completely new culture after marriage. I was no different. I, a Maharashtrian, chose to marry a Bengali from only a few 1000 kms away from where I had lived so far. What ensued was a roller coaster ride of interesting incidents and amusing moments. Cross-connection is an auto-biographical account of these anecdotes that happened in this Marathi-Bengali marriage.